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There’s an expectation that age should deplete our natural sexual desires. It’s embarrassing for me, too.” No, she’s flying to Argentina, hanging out in a nice hotel and hooking up with the doorman, who teaches her to tango on the dance floor and in the bed.
Traveling abroad to indulge those urges lifts what feels like a domestic ban on sexual expression for some older women. For other women, traveling is a way to spend time cultures where their sexuality is fully accepted and appreciated.
" At first, her disclosure strikes you as too much information.
But then it gets you thinking: You're single, too — what could be so bad about a casual night in bed with someone you like but don't love?
For 50-plus types unwilling to walk — possibly rewalk — the path that leads to romance, rings and relocation, the prospect of a "friend with benefits" is looking less and less like a millennial indulgence.
After all, it gets awfully lonely waiting around for "the one." Perhaps you've decided that what you need at this point in your life is someone to talk to and laugh with — someone with whom you can share the sheets, but not the tax refund.
And she’s not the only older woman looking for sex away from home.
Increasingly, women are doing what men have done for years: traveling abroad for trysts with strangers.
Marilyn, a 57-year-old single colleague of mine, recently reconnected with someone she had worked with many years ago. "No," Marilyn said with a laugh, "it's better than that: I'm in like with him — and that's exactly where I want to be." She further confided that they planned to make their reunions "a regular thing — if four times a year can be called 'regular.' But I think that's about all I really want." Marilyn's casual approach to maintaining a friendship with benefits typifies the mindset of older folks who have reconciled themselves to having "great fun" even if it's "just one of those things." And episodic pleasure-seeking may be more common than you think: In The Normal Bar, a book I wrote last year with Chrisanna Northrup and James Witte, we reported that 61 percent of female survey respondents who had partners fantasized about someone they had met.
Let’s call her “Rebecca” – a tall, thin woman in her early 60s who says there are few times in her life when she feels completely free.
“Between my children, my colleagues, my ex, my finances and my community, I always feel someone wants something from me and has very specific expectations,” she says.
Companionship in their words “covers friends, marriage, and everything in between.” There’s less of an emphasis on sex and physical appearance and there’s no system of rating like on other apps.
There isn’t even in-app messaging because as Dowling explains: “We found that our users prefer to speak on the phone.” So maybe they’re not looking for hookups, but the idea of just how matches are made are very Tinder-ish.